Archive for the ‘Family’ Category

Just step back

March 21, 2014

Sometimes as the storm rages about us, it is necessary to step back … and wait … and content ourselves with just being a lightning rod. And to remember that the lightning rod isn’t causing the lightning, nor the lightning the storm.

So one waits for a pause, for a patch of clear sky to appear, a glimpse of the sun obscured for so long.

Trying to Connect

February 10, 2014


Where do they go
When they are gone?
That place
That gives them space
No compass pointing
No path suggesting
Stars to guide – growing dim
Silence, emptiness, yet filled – with loss
I call out lovingly
Listen hopefully
No appeal goes forth
No response returns
For it is only my heart
Trying to connect
Forgetting, actually,

© 2014 Thomas W. Cummins

An opportunity to become a new creation

September 2, 2013

We went to a 50th anniversary party last evening, and I couldn’t help but reflect – especially since our own is less than a year away.

50th anniversaries have always seemed to be a big deal. In the not too distant past, one of the two seldom lived long enough for the couple to complete 50 years. Certainly a cause for celebration when that milestone was reached.

More recently, it seems as though many don’t stay together long enough to achieve such a mark. The  Golden Anniversary has become more elusive.

But to me it’s not so much that we stay together, but rather who we have become during those 50 years. I would suggest that each party in the couple is a unique product of that long relationship, a manifestation of their own individuality being in a loving relationship with the other.

Sure each could have gone on and done many good things and enjoyed personal growth whether in relationship with another or not. But what we experience in any given couple honoring that big event is a unique product. A different product. Perhaps a better product both at the individual level and as a couple.

That is the benefit of a committed, long-lasting marriage. An opportunity to become a new creation.

Running Out of Time

August 1, 2013


To run out of time
There’s not enough time
At a certain age
After much has been done
Little is left
Nothing awaits
Expectations met
Something is missing
Snatched away,
But to regain
That being denied
To reclaim, to undo
To heal
Takes time
There’s not enough time
I’m afraid
At a certain age

© 2013 Thomas W. Cummins

Alone Again Naturally

July 19, 2013

Yesterday we visited the remaining spouse of a couple we have known for 49 years. She is now a widow of ten days.

As we talked, I was reminded of the lyrics of the song by Gilbert O’Sullivan, “Alone Again Naturally”:

Couldn’t understand
Why the only man
She had ever loved
Had been taken

Severed Connections

July 10, 2013

Speaking with a prisoner the other day, the conversation got around to staying in touch with family. “I don’t know what has happened,” he said. “My mother thinks I don’t care about family, yet that is all I ever think about. How can she say such a thing? What did I do?” Prisoners are most likely to be tormented by what happens beyond the fence, rather than by what happens within.

He isn’t the only prisoner experiencing such a separation; nor do separations occur only among families of the incarcerated.


A gate has been closed
Latched from within
Sudden, unannounced
Disturbing, depressing
An inexplicable absence
Made all the more painful
In its ever-presence
Over the silent phone
In the empty mailbox
Residing in every waking moment

 © 2013 Thomas W. Cummins